Should I give my husband his anniversary gift even though he got me nothing?

We started fighting badly after an unexpected move and were primarily fighting about finances. Also I am 6 months pregnant so when my hormones came in i was crazy. The last time we had sex was this conception 6 months ago. he has been rejecting me the entire time. He'll give me a smooch kiss if i initiate but that is it. Our 3 year anniversary was on Tuesday. I was hoping he would finally want to make up. I got him a 3 month massage membership for $177. He got me nothing and did not acknowledge the date even though i left cards from our parents on the table. Then I sent him an email saying it's time to make up or break up because this is bad for my mental health, especially being pregnant. i told him to move to the spare bedroom and he did. he sent me a response saying: "I don’t think we bring out the best in each other. We are rarely on the same page. We have different philosophies on life. We have different values.I don’t feel safe with you - I don’t feel like I can share everything with you or be myself around you." this sounds like a break up to me. do i even want to be with someone who feels this horribly about me? we also have a 3.5 year old. and live nowhere near our families. i'm trying to give him some space alone to think and maybe even miss me. i miss him and it's very difficult to leave him alone, especially at night:( i never told him i got him a gift. i was thinking maybe i should just use it myself if they let me. i'm thinking if i give it to him he might be mad for spending that money. or i might be using it as manipulation to try to make him feel guilty. should i give it to him or just use it for myself? i doubt it's refundable.